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(M31) Proposal to girlfriend (F34) of 2 years gone horribly. Need advice?
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Hey Reddit, I’m in desperate need of advice. I’m a 31M, and I recently proposed to my girlfriend, 34F, of two years. We were on a holiday, and it was supposed to be perfect. I had planned it all out. We were staying at this beautiful place with an amazing view, and I thought proposing on our balcony in the morning would be romantic as hell. I made breakfast, got down on one knee, and she said yes. Everything was going great. We were engaged. Or so I thought. Now, I need you guys to tell me if I’m insane, but here's where everything went sideways. About ten minutes after I proposed, she asked me if I had gone to ask her mom for her blessing. Now, her dad isn’t in the picture, but her mom’s a three-hour drive away, and I didn’t have time to go in person. I had called her mom to ask for her blessing. I thought that would be good enough. Her mom was thrilled over the phone and gave me the green light. Well, my girlfriend did NOT think that was okay. She started crying right there, saying I didn’t do it right, that I should’ve driven to see her mom face-to-face. And let me be clear, she had mentioned this before. But I was pressed for time with the ring arriving only days before our trip, and I thought the gesture itself mattered more than the logistics. She gave me the ring back. I thought it was just a heat-of-the-moment thing, but for the next few days, she was inconsolable. She cried constantly, kept bringing up how I had "ruined" the proposal by not going to see her mom, how it wasn’t done right, how it wasn’t perfect. Now, I’m really hurt. I get it. I should’ve gone to her mom in person, but I don’t understand how that’s worth throwing away our engagement. It feels like the proposal, the moment, and our relationship are less important to her than this one detail. I need advice. Should I suck it up and do the proposal again “the right way”? Or is this a massive red flag that I should be paying attention to? I’m not sure I even want to propose again at this point. It’s like she cares more about the theatrics than the fact we were supposed to spend the rest of our lives together.