"How do I know when I've found The One?" - Austin, Baltimore, MD

This idea of finding "The One" is problematic for relationships. The paradox of choice creates a real sense of anxiety for people looking to find a long-term partner. The expectations of this one person to satisfy all of our many emotional, physical, and spiritual needs is a tall order for one individual.

Perhaps, instead of looking for a person who checks all the boxes, focus on a person with whom you can imagine yourself writing a story with. And there are no perfect stories.

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