I love little analogies that make you understand things in a different way - and this is, or was for me, one of them. It's one thing to say you don't "believe" in divorce, and it's another to think of your life in terms of this analogy. How do you get to where you want to go and are you currently on the path that's going to take you there?

No one should push you into divorce; no one should shame you for staying. All we have is this one life and the best possible decisions we can make under the circumstances. But that doesn't mean that those decisions - whatever one you ultimately make - aren't really hard.